How to Read Deborah Copaken's Books
Deborah Copaken (formerly publishing as Deborah Copaken Kogan) writes across two distinct lanes: unflinching, deeply personal memoirs and contemporary realistic fiction. Because her stories do not form a continuous fictional series with overarching plots or character arcs, you do not need to follow a strict chronological reading order. Instead, the best way to read her work is by genre or by starting with her most acclaimed, era-defining books.
The Recommended Starting Points
If you are new to Copaken's writing, your starting point should depend on whether you prefer immersive, real-life memoirs or character-driven contemporary fiction.
For Memoir Lovers: Start with Shutterbabe
To truly understand Copaken's unique perspective, start with her debut memoir, Shutterbabe: Adventures in Love and War (2001). This book chronicles her high-stakes, adrenaline-fueled early career as a war photojournalist. From Paris to Moscow, Zimbabwe to Afghanistan, Copaken details the realities of being a young woman reporting from combat zones. It establishes the candid, conversational, and bold voice that defines all of her later writing.
For Fiction Readers: Start with The Red Book
If you prefer fiction, begin with her second novel, The Red Book (2012). Longlisted for the Women's Prize for Fiction, this story revolves around a group of former Harvard roommates who reunite for their 25th college reunion. Copaken draws heavily on her own experience as a Harvard alumnus (Class of 1988) to explore midlife transitions, legacy, grief, and long-harbored secrets. It is a witty, bittersweet slice of contemporary realism that serves as her most successful novel.
Deborah Copaken's Non-Fiction & Memoirs
Copaken's non-fiction works are chronological markers of her own life path, progressing from adventurous youth to the chaotic middle years of parenting, and finally to navigating bodily changes and systemic hurdles in midlife.
- Shutterbabe: Adventures in Love and War (2001): Focuses on her twenties, war photography, and the challenges of being a female journalist in the field.
- Hell Is Other Parents: And Other Tales of Maternal Realism (2009): A collection of comic and bittersweet essays detailing the humorous, chaotic, and sometimes agonizing realities of modern parenting.
- Ladyparts: A Memoir (2021): A raw, vulnerable account of her fifties, capturing a period marked by divorce, single parenthood, the physical challenges of aging, battles with health insurance, and navigating sexism in corporate and literary spaces.
Collaborative Gift Books: The ABCs Series
In addition to her narrative memoirs, Copaken partnered with artist and sculptor Randy Polumbo to create a pair of creative, letter-by-letter advice books. These companion volumes combine short, witty essays with street-style conceptual photography.
- The ABCs of Adulthood: An Alphabet of Life Lessons (2016): Born out of a viral essay Copaken wrote when her eldest son went to college, this book offers humorous and profound A-to-Z advice for navigating life as an adult.
- The ABCs of Parenthood: An Alphabet of Parenting Advice (2017): A close collaborative follow-up in which both Copaken and Polumbo contributed to the letters, offering visual and written advice for parents.
Deborah Copaken's Standalone Novels
If you want to read all of Copaken's fiction, you can easily read them in publication order. Because they are standalone novels set in different worlds with different casts, they can be read in any order.
- Between Here and April (2008): A darker, suspenseful contemporary novel that follows a mother trying to uncover the tragic, long-buried truth behind a childhood friend's sudden disappearance.
- The Red Book (2012): A character study following four women at a Harvard reunion, exploring how the bright-eyed optimism of youth shifts over a quarter of a century.
Companion Media: Modern Love
Readers looking to explore Copaken's shorter work should seek out her celebrated New York Times "Modern Love" essay, "When Cupid Is a Prying Journalist" (published November 29, 2015). This poignant essay, which recounts an encounter between a journalist and a tech entrepreneur that brings a long-lost romance back to the surface, was adapted into the second episode of the Amazon Prime Video anthology series Modern Love (starring Catherine Keener as the journalist character based on Copaken).